Comments on: Romance is a Stage http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2008/09/22/romance/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=romance Wayne C. Allen - a simple Zen guy - writes about living and relating elegantly Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:53:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: The Zen of Conflict « « The Pathless Path The Pathless Path http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2008/09/22/romance/#comment-2146 The Zen of Conflict « « The Pathless Path The Pathless Path Mon, 07 Nov 2011 12:54:01 +0000 http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/?p=169#comment-2146 [...] of contents for The Zen of Relating Mindful RelatingLust, Caution – The Perils of RomanceRomance is a StageThe Zen of ConflictThe Path to CuriosityIllusionIntegrity and [...] […] of contents for The Zen of Relating Mindful RelatingLust, Caution – The Perils of RomanceRomance is a StageThe Zen of ConflictThe Path to CuriosityIllusionIntegrity and […]

]]> By: wayne http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2008/09/22/romance/#comment-306 wayne Tue, 23 Sep 2008 13:09:32 +0000 http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/?p=169#comment-306 Hey Peter, Always great hearing from you. I'll check out the article you linked. I agree with you comments. My next articles will likely address the "conflict" issue - and learning to accept that I (and others) are human as opposed to 'nice,' or conflict free. I see this one played out in Bodywork all the time - people just filled with, say sadness or anger, and just straining themselves not to express it and be done with it. Because good people don't get angry. I just laugh and keep pushing... IN the and, it's all about acceptance, of self and other, as each is. If that is not possible, I don't see the point of the relationship... Trusting all is well with you "Down Under..." Warmly, Wayne Hey Peter,
Always great hearing from you. I’ll check out the article you linked.
I agree with you comments. My next articles will likely address the “conflict” issue — and learning to accept that I (and others) are human as opposed to ‘nice,’ or conflict free. I see this one played out in Bodywork all the time — people just filled with, say sadness or anger, and just straining themselves not to express it and be done with it. Because good people don’t get angry. I just laugh and keep pushing…
IN the and, it’s all about acceptance, of self and other, as each is. If that is not possible, I don’t see the point of the relationship…
Trusting all is well with you “Down Under…“
Warmly, Wayne

]]> By: Peter Hoban http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2008/09/22/romance/#comment-305 Peter Hoban Tue, 23 Sep 2008 10:30:23 +0000 http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/?p=169#comment-305 Hi Wayne I heard a nice definition of romantic a few years ago - "everyday events and activities given erotic overtones". People have such diverse views of what they find romantic but in practice I suspect all that varies is their feeling about the other person at the time. I particularly liked your observation "The growing edge is always in how we deal with the confrontation that comes from differing opinions." Ain't that true. Regrettably, so many folk seem to feel that difference or conflict should not occur ('shoulding' on themselves again). The 'perfect Christian' stereotype they seek to be never has any conflict - just like it never has authentic people or personal growth. Im my maturity I am feeling that the Church has a great deal to answer for. I have been reading Jonathon Haight's interesting recent contribution to this on The Edge. Did you see it? You might be interested. http://www.edge.org/discourse/moral_religion.html Regards, Peter Hi Wayne

I heard a nice definition of romantic a few years ago -
“everyday events and activities given erotic overtones”.
People have such diverse views of what they find romantic but in practice I suspect all that varies is their feeling about the other person at the time.

I particularly liked your observation “The growing edge is always in how we deal with the confrontation that comes from differing opinions.” Ain’t that true. Regrettably, so many folk seem to feel that difference or conflict should not occur (‘shoulding’ on themselves again).

The ‘perfect Christian’ stereotype they seek to be never has any conflict — just like it never has authentic people or personal growth.

Im my maturity I am feeling that the Church has a great deal to answer for. I have been reading Jonathon Haight’s interesting recent contribution to this on The Edge. Did you see it? You might be interested.
http://www.edge.org/discourse/moral_religion.html

Regards, Peter

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