Comments on: 5 ways to pay attention http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2009/06/15/5-ways/ Wayne C. Allen - a simple Zen guy - writes about living and relating elegantly Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:33:12 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: wayne http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2009/06/15/5-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-462 wayne Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:58:56 +0000 http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/?p=283#comment-462 Hi Yvette, Maybe I will tackle these questions in the next article... Briefly, as an example, I don't eat bananas. Well, I do occasionally, if they are in fruit salad. Mostly, though, I avoid them. So, that would be choosing to avoid something I do not like. Now, I would be off track it I took it further... "Boy, I hate bananas! They're disgusting and smell, and they give people banana breath! No one should ever eat bananas!" Now, I COULD think all of that, but I would then be lost in judgements and thought, and I have actually added nothing to the fact that I do not like bananas. The game is best played by knowing my likes and dislikes, being adventuresome when I am uncertain, and working diligently to drop the add-on judgements. Yup. I think I'll write about this... thanks! Hi Yvette,
Maybe I will tackle these questions in the next article…
Briefly, as an example, I don’t eat bananas. Well, I do occasionally, if they are in fruit salad. Mostly, though, I avoid them. So, that would be choosing to avoid something I do not like.
Now, I would be off track it I took it further… “Boy, I hate bananas! They’re disgusting and smell, and they give people banana breath! No one should ever eat bananas!”
Now, I COULD think all of that, but I would then be lost in judgements and thought, and I have actually added nothing to the fact that I do not like bananas.
The game is best played by knowing my likes and dislikes, being adventuresome when I am uncertain, and working diligently to drop the add-on judgements.
Yup. I think I’ll write about this… thanks!

]]> By: Yvette http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/2009/06/15/5-ways/comment-page-1/#comment-461 Yvette Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:27:09 +0000 http://www.phoenixcentre.com/blog/?p=283#comment-461 This article was great and I am really enjoying this Zen experience and look forward to your articles however there is one thing that I just can't seem to grasp and need some help in clarifying it and just putting into perspective. Basically I'm wondering about emotions or preferences. Is it ok to not care for a particular individual or want to be around people that you find unpleasant? Or are we supposed to like everyone and be happy go lucky? And is it a judgement to not want to be around people who are always getting into trouble? Thanks for you words of wisdom, Yvette This article was great and I am really enjoying this Zen experience and look forward to your articles however there is one thing that I just can’t seem to grasp and need some help in clarifying it and just putting into perspective. Basically I’m wondering about emotions or preferences. Is it ok to not care for a particular individual or want to be around people that you find unpleasant? Or are we supposed to like everyone and be happy go lucky? And is it a judgement to not want to be around people who are always getting into trouble?

Thanks for you words of wisdom,
Yvette

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