Trance-formations and Transformations — change is possi­ble if you are will­ing to explore your auto programs

In This Moment

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For multi­ple years back in the 80s and early 90s, I was deeply “into” hypno­sis and NLP (Neuro-lingusitic Programing.) I liked the idea of going in and play­ing, directly, with the mind’s program­ming.

The grandfather of clinical hypnosis, Milton Erickson, taught and practiced for decades.

Many of his students are still alive, and several have contributed to NLP. NLP, at it’s base, takes Erickson’s flexible approach (it’s said he never repeated an induction or hypnotic pattern) and codified it for easier learning.

Which was all fine and dandy, until car salesmen started learning it.

I remem­ber going in to buy a car once, and the sales guy started pattern match­ing, and play­ing other NLP games. He was OK at it, and I even allowed myself to "feel the pull" he was bring­ing about by his words and actions.

Then, I got bored

So, I started shift­ing my patterns (the way I was talk­ing, sitting, etc.) away from what I had been doing. He got confused, then compen­sated. I shifted again. And again. Pretty soon, he stopped talk­ing and looked gob-smacked.

I said, "Enough with the NLP, let’s talk cars." He went a bit rigid, then smiled. "I’ll stop if you will!"

The basis of NLP is that our brains are lazy. Powerful, but lazy. Or economical.

horse and cell phone
My god, this horse comes with a phone!!

Thinking burns a ton of calo­ries. Uses a ton of oxygen. So, our brains develop patterns, or habits. Example: you want to call a friend, so you pick up a tele­phone, not a banana. You habit­u­ally "know" that phones are for call­ing. No think­ing neces­sary.

You are actually in a trance state when you reach for a phone. Or drive a car. Or walk down stairs.

The prob­lems come along when more and more things fall into the trance cate­gory. The cure, then, for trance-formation is… trans­for­ma­tion.

The things you believe to be so are noth­ing more than trance states. Your brain has been fed a certain line of thought, and it’s "hooked" to some­thing. (Back to phones. The hooks: need­ing to make a call, and seek­ing the phone.) Eventually, you see (hear, etc.) the hook, and the belief is trig­gered.

No thought. Just stimulus / response.

The gross exam­ple of this is funda­men­tal­ism. Fundamentalists see some­thing that "offends them," and all thought goes out the window. All that you hear and see is mind­less action, rhetoric, and often, violence. They spout off about their "reli­gion," but of course "miss" that other believ­ers react differ­ently. They are caught, and in a sense, brain­less.

Of course, this process is mostly quite subtle.

One client has an issue with being too comfort­able with herself. She receives comple­ments, or is treated well by her part­ner, and when her "set point" is reached, ("I’m not supposed to feel this good!") she gets crit­i­cal, or turns off, or does some­thing to reduce the feel­ing of "good."

The trigger, the hook, is her pleasure set-point.

Another person — a friend — is lift­ing weights and running, and hasn’t lost any weight, but is more buff. She real­izes that the weight thing is her mouth open­ing too often to stuff in carbs. Her belief is, "I shouldn’t have to work hard, things should just work out." So, she does what she always does with those carbs, and guess what? No weight loss.

Transformation is seeing yourself

Everyone does this stuff differ­ently, but the common­al­ity is that the things you are stuck over are caused by you, refus­ing to observe your beliefs, accept them, and then change your patterns.

Asking "why" doesn’t help

The why ques­tion only leads to story telling and blam­ing others (or a situ­a­tion). The short answer to the why ques­tion is:

Because that’s what you do… it’s your pattern.

In the case of the client with the mis-set self-esteem, the key is for her to notice the feel­ing that comes right before she makes a mess for herself. The tight, icky feel­ing of being "too loved." As she notices, she can stop herself from react­ing, and say,

"So, I notice I’m hear­ing (your comple­ment) and I’m about to reject it, because that’s what I do to make myself miser­able. I want to own that, and then shift, breathe, and invite you to comple­ment me again, so I can reset my toler­ance point."

She will need to do this repeatedly, for a month or more, with no slip-ups.

Or she can whine about how hard change is (Yup. Hard. If it wasn’t, every­one would have their shit together.)

Transformation takes courage, strength, and deter­mi­na­tion, because you are fight­ing with decades of program­ming — years of trance-formation.

Yet, it all boils down to this, grip­ing and stay­ing stuck, or stay­ing preset while shift­ing your behav­iour.

No one can help you, as this is all about you. Just like every­thing else in your life.

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