Passion for Life
The back pelvis the “home” of passion for life. I am really wondering what the world would look like if “normal” passion for life was closer to the level of van Gogh than Elmer Fudd.
The handy dandy 5 step cure to what ails you
Left to our own devices, we are never better than our list of rules. Right and wrong discussions lead precisely nowhere. Here are 5 ways to step out of this swamp, giving you the chance to free yourself, and let others be.
5 Communication Tips
Virtually all “couple issues” are communication issues. Superficially, the topic may be finances, sex, child-rearing, or whatever, but underlying it all is the quality and regularity of the couple’s communication. Let’s look at a few things that might help you improve in this area.
It’s All / It’s Not About You
Many are the people who think that the world isn’t treating them right. I hear this one especially as I counsel couples. There they sit, balefully glaring at each other, vainly hoping I’ll declare a winner. Each rattles off a litany of what the other is doing wrong. Sometimes, one or the other will tell me, with great righteousness, “Everyone knows that relationships should be easy. When you find the right person, (s)he will meet all your needs, without asking, and everything will be perfect.”
This is egotism.
A Life Appreciated: Taking Time to Reflect
The art of appreciation is seldom practiced. I suspect this is so because appreciation actually contradicts our belief about how much is ‘wrong’ with life. It is difficult to be appreciative when most people are caught in a loop—trying to make the world, and others, behave. And of course, this seldom if ever works.
Appreciation exists in the here and now. It is an approach to the ‘is-ness’ of life. It only happens when I suspend judgement so as to be present with what ‘is.’ In a sense, appreciation is a meditation and a reflection—a way of telling ones life-story with gratitude.
Live Fearlessly - 7 Tips
Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In Zen, we say this is simple, as in “Simply Sit.” Or, “Pay attention!” Or, “Wake up!”
The point of these little aphorisms is to bring living into the present moment.
Fearful living disables our ability to act in the here and now. Of course, when you think about it, the fear is totally internal. I fear what I am imagining might happen, and therefore am standing still doing nothing, or doing what I always do.
Fearless living is not reckless. It is both present and prepared. It also recognizes this fundamental truth:
All you can control is the action, not the outcome.
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