10 Ways to Deepen Your Relationship
Elegant Dialog takes communication to a new level of self-responsible relating. None of this comes easily. That being said, here are 10 exercises that will take your relationship from stuck to soaring.
The Courage to be Happy
Given society’s propensity to think that ‘love’ should automatically equal happiness, it’s a brave thing indeed to suggest that the real source of happiness is courage.
Why is this so?
Well, there’s a progression of silliness that is common to most relationships. It begins at the ‘falling in love’ stage, when everything seems so perfect. The biological imperative sets in, and the quirks in each others’ behaviour are painted over.
As time goes by, (six months is usually about the standard time) a bit more ‘reality’ sets in. The things not noticed in the romance of falling in love begin to emerge. What’s really happening is that a certain level of comfort has been reached, and the parties are more willing to be who they really are.
A Life Appreciated: Taking Time to Reflect
The art of appreciation is seldom practiced. I suspect this is so because appreciation actually contradicts our belief about how much is ‘wrong’ with life. It is difficult to be appreciative when most people are caught in a loop—trying to make the world, and others, behave. And of course, this seldom if ever works.
Appreciation exists in the here and now. It is an approach to the ‘is-ness’ of life. It only happens when I suspend judgement so as to be present with what ‘is.’ In a sense, appreciation is a meditation and a reflection—a way of telling ones life-story with gratitude.
10 Zen Principles to Help You Live Life Better
We all need help to remember to stay present, to live in the eternal now. Herewith are 10 quotes from the famous 20th century Zen Master, Yogi Berra, on how to live elegantly and with awareness.
A Lesson About Growing Up
Many of my clients are “Boomers,” and many of them are ’squeezed’ between their living parents and their kids. I want to frame what I’m about to show you with this: The goal of parenting is to raise your kids to be independent adults—and the age of independence is 18-20. That this is not happening is terrifying.
Always has been, always will be.
Seven Ways to Live in the Endless Moment
Living an awakened life is not particularly complicated, but it can be difficult. Moment by moment, there is the opportunity to be fully awake, true to oneself, and alive. Here are seven suggestions for having this this way of living be your way of being.
Zen Based, Present Living
