5 Communication Tips
Virtually all “couple issues” are communication issues. Superficially, the topic may be finances, sex, child-rearing, or whatever, but underlying it all is the quality and regularity of the couple’s communication. Let’s look at a few things that might help you improve in this area.
The Courage to be Happy
Given society’s propensity to think that ‘love’ should automatically equal happiness, it’s a brave thing indeed to suggest that the real source of happiness is courage.
Why is this so?
Well, there’s a progression of silliness that is common to most relationships. It begins at the ‘falling in love’ stage, when everything seems so perfect. The biological imperative sets in, and the quirks in each others’ behaviour are painted over.
As time goes by, (six months is usually about the standard time) a bit more ‘reality’ sets in. The things not noticed in the romance of falling in love begin to emerge. What’s really happening is that a certain level of comfort has been reached, and the parties are more willing to be who they really are.
Live Fearlessly - 7 Tips
Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In Zen, we say this is simple, as in “Simply Sit.” Or, “Pay attention!” Or, “Wake up!”
The point of these little aphorisms is to bring living into the present moment.
Fearful living disables our ability to act in the here and now. Of course, when you think about it, the fear is totally internal. I fear what I am imagining might happen, and therefore am standing still doing nothing, or doing what I always do.
Fearless living is not reckless. It is both present and prepared. It also recognizes this fundamental truth:
All you can control is the action, not the outcome.
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A Lesson About Growing Up
Many of my clients are “Boomers,” and many of them are ’squeezed’ between their living parents and their kids. I want to frame what I’m about to show you with this: The goal of parenting is to raise your kids to be independent adults—and the age of independence is 18-20. That this is not happening is terrifying.
Always has been, always will be.
Seven Ways to Live in the Endless Moment
Living an awakened life is not particularly complicated, but it can be difficult. Moment by moment, there is the opportunity to be fully awake, true to oneself, and alive. Here are seven suggestions for having this this way of living be your way of being.
Body, Mind, Spirit as Classroom
Mindful living is passionate, engaged living. This article looks at being present in your body, embracing who you are, and making the choice to live fully and completely. The challenge: letting go of internal and external pressure to stay the same.
Zen Based, Present Living
