Sacred Sexuality
This is the “Sex is Problematic” posture, if you’ll excuse the pun. Many people “do” sexual things, while “hotly” denying their sexuality. Of course, the joke is that sexuality is an energy, and as an energy, is simply (and indivisibly) a part of us — it’s there all the time. That we repress it, deny it, or try vainly to relegate it to the back burner does not change the fact that we are born, live, and die as sexual beings.
Grounding Your Self
Finding ground is the essential first step in living a mindful life. Here are 10 things to experiment with, each designed to connect you firmly to the ground.
Body Voices
There is a certain reluctance, for most of us, to exit our heads and to pay attention to our bodies, senses, emotions, and spirits. We begin to look at how to barely listen to the voice of our body, and in this way to become more centered and calm.
Healing the Mind - Body Split
I’m suggesting that you examine your emotional list, and discover what you’re clinging to.
Emotions, in and of themselves, do not mean anything. Thoughts, in and of themselves, do not mean anything. You are not your thoughts, and you are not your emotions.
Emotions & Thoughts are things you have, not things that you are.
Letting go of clinging is all about detaching from identifying with these internal processes.
Undoing Trauma’s Knots
There’s no question that in every life, stuff happens. Some of the stuff that happens is really, really uncomfortable. Some of it even qualifies as a full-blown trauma.
It’s important to recognize that my goal here is never to diminish or negate the traumatic experiences that you have experienced. However, healing and moving on requires one thing.
You must learn that trauma is one real moment in time. Thus, a trauma does not go on.
What can go on is imagining (and suffering over) this past event.
Clinging to People
Now, let me say something radical—almost all parenting (with the exception of abuse) is the best the parent can do. They learned how to be, to relate, and to parent from their parents, and most have not explored any of this strange knowledge with a competent professional.
Most parents, then, are parenting by the seat of their pants, and are screwing up at least part of the time.
Zen Based, Present Living
