Seasoned Psychotherapist Discovers that "The List of 50" can change your life... your love life, that is!
Once you discover "The List of 50," you'll know exactly what you need to get the relationship you want.
Imagine having the person you want to be with… right there.
Someone to talk with, to share deeply with, to experience
full and deep connection.
Imagine being with someone who shares your values, your goals, your objectives.
Getting EXACTLY the Relationship You Want
is the only e-book you'll ever need to learn how to discover your perfect partner.
I'm Wayne C. Allen, and I want to welcome you here.
I know you have many questions about how to get your next
relationship EXACTLY right..
You want tools and techniques that will help you to build upon
your past experiences.
You're willing to learn another approach to finding your
Perfect Partner.
You are about to find the answers you are looking for.
To begin with, there two things you need to know.
First, there is no magic connected to finding the right person and establishing a great relationship. Hollywood movies aren't real! If you think that you'll look across a room and fall instantly in love, you are in for endless disappointment.
Instead, what is required is a focused, clear, and direct approach to the whole "finding a partner" enterprise. It requires thought, persistence, and logic.
Knowing how to have a strong, clear, meaning-packed relationship is not automatic –
but it can be learned!
Second, what you need to learn is how to focus in on getting what you want--all of it--as opposed to settling for "almost but not quite." This means that your focus is on you and your wants, needs, and desires.
I'm going to take you by the hand and teach you to let go of what does not work,
AND to engage in a process that will help you
to produce the results you want!
I'm sure you're curious, so I'll tell you more. But first, be excited!! You are taking your first step on the only authentic path to building a deep relationship!
Let me begin with a bit of my story:
I earned my Masters degree in Counselling in 1983, and have been in private practice since then.
I not only have taught many of my clients what you are about to learn - I've used this exact method myself - I invented it for myself in 1983. Needless to say, it worked! I've been in an exciting, full and wonderful relationship since then!
We celebrated our 20th anniversary in April of 2006! That's me with my partner and best friend, Darbella, flanking our niece, Lisa.
I learned from my past mis-steps, and you will too!
So without further ado, let's look at why
I wrote this book for my clients, and for you!
Clients come to me at the sad ending of another crummy relationship
and want to know what went wrong,
and "where all the good people are."
Growing up, each one of them heard, on TV and at the movies, that finding a partner was easy, (or at least amusing) and after a couple of twists and turns, perfect strangers lived effortlessly and happily ever after.
They are frustrated and sad, because
this never happens for them.
They have relationships that start off exciting
and soon fall off the rails.
Clients believe that "everyone else" knows some magic formula for elegant relationships, and therefore think they must be stupid.
They forget that the divorce rate for first marriages, in the U.S.A., is right around 50%,
and is even higher for second marriages.
And they think that they have been betrayed.
They have tried all the things Hollywood taught them,
and have gotten all the wrong things in return.
What I am about to offer you is the result of the exploration that I began way back in 1983, plus the refinements I've made over the last 20-some years of highly successful relationship.
This is what I offer to you – the chance to create you own long-lasting, deep and intimate relationship –
and with it, to turn your sense of self-worth in a completely new direction.
With a bit of effort and commitment, using the e- book
and the extra resources I've created for you,
you will succeed.
The best approach to creating an elegant relationship is finally available to the general public!
is unlike any other book you've ever seen or read.
You'll discover
- how relationships fail,
- how the "dating cycle" works, and most importantly,
- how to identify and find exactly the person you've been looking for.
Rather than hoping to find the right partner in life through luck or random chance, Getting EXACTLY the Relationship You Want shows you the self-responsible, pro-active approach that leads to solid results. There are plenty of good psychological insights for men or women here, whether you're looking to start a new relationship or not, but its real strength, to me, seems to be in helping a person figure out exactly what they do want in a partner and getting past the internal filters that continually set them up with the wrong partner. It's another gem by Wayne.
~ Dennis "Boogie Jack" Gaskill
I wrote this book because I was sick and tired of boring, strange, endlessly failing relationships, mine included!
I thought there had to be a way to narrow down clients' focus, so that each client would discover, commit to, and then form exactly the kind of relationship they wanted – not without effort, but step-by-step.
Getting EXACTLY the Relationship You Want has helped countless clients find what they thought was impossible – meaning, depth, and purpose in an exciting, soulful relationship. And now, you can have this too!
One of the key tools you'll find in my new book is how to create a List of 50 – essential characteristics that your new partner must have (the whys and wherefores of this are described in the book.)
As you take a moment to read a few of the many reviews of
Getting EXACTLY the Relationship You Want,
you'll see many references to the power of this amazing technique!
You may not recall, but I met you once a couple of years ago
while attending a session with [a client of yours who is a friend of mine] as a
quiet witness of your Bodywork. It was quite an intense session, and I was very
honoured that she asked me to attend and that you didn't mind my presence. One
activity she has shared with me is the infamous List of 50 . This act of
positively exploring my needs and desires was very rewarding. I have shared this
idea with many of my friends and family, with many positive results and
constructive conversations.
Not surprisingly, this List was a key
component in discovering that the person I wished to share my life with was in
fact a very close friend of mine. He too completed the assignments, and through
some soul searching we realized that we were looking for each other. Though
neither of us had considered the act of marriage before, the idea of creating a
symbolic union naturally appealed to us.
My friend/professor told me about this and says it has changed her outlook and relationships. An interesting perspective that I would like to read about.
I'm pleasing myself over the fact that you are writing a book based on the List of 50. I find it ironic actually because the timing is rather impeccable. I finally, after 6 long months of emotional and physical celibacy decided to re-write my list. This time I did a good job, not a half assed job as I was so used to doing in the past.
I really used the tools in the book; I examined my old patterns, past relationships and myself and came up with my true List of 50.
At the time I re-wrote it I was going through something with an old friend. As soon as I severed the negative relationship I allowed myself to find the man that fit my list 100 percent. I actually showed him the list and he laughed and said "You wrote this after you met me didn’t you?" I hadn't, as a matter of fact I had written it about 4 weeks earlier. He and I have spent the summer together getting to know one another and each other’s children and we are enjoying all that goes along with it.
I have also been using tools from building long and lasting relationships and I am finding that they are truly helping me to not go back to old patterns. I am honest with him and with myself and I rarely give anyone other than myself the power to make me feel anyway. I find this one different in the sense that I have built my own security and I no longer feel a need for urgency. I am not rushing things and still enjoy time on my own. Whenever I see myself slipping into my old patterns I simply stand back and observe without judgment and correct where I am with self awareness and of course breath.
When I showed my List of 50 to one friend he commented, "Do you have a short list that us mere mortals could aspire to?" My answer was, "I had a short list and it got me my ex-husband. I'm being more particular now."
Does anyone fit my list? Well, I have "tried" a relationship with one man that almost fits my list but a few of the very important points were not met (high energy, engaging fully in life being the most important). Having the list made it very clear. He remains a very, very close friend so that's a good thing.
I have "reunited" with a fellow I went out with some 32 years ago who has potential for fitting my list. I say potential because it will take time to know. We live in different provinces, which is a difficulty, of course, but seem to be beginning to explore the possibility of relationship over the phone for now. (By the way, I've suggested he read the booklet and write out his own list. I'm kind of hoping he'll notice I fit his. Might not work that way but I'm willing to take a chance.)
This latter connection, made after I had written my list, has me thinking that it really is possible that someone out there could fit it. so that alone has been beneficial.
A final thought. As I re-read my list (not quite daily but frequently) it is clear to me that besides the qualities that are specific to another—height, profession, etc.) the qualities I want in a man are the qualities I work towards for myself. That is, being a person of integrity, caring, committed to my psychological and physical health and development. It was interesting to note that. Not surprising, just interesting.
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So, I hear you asking, what's in the book, and why is it so
special?
Getting EXACTLY the Relationship You Want is a practical, step-by-step guide to recognizing what works and what doesn't when it comes to relationships. The book contains tools, exercises and specific suggestions created to help you to think differently about all of your relationships.
You will discover:
- the true meaning of a successful relationship: "A bond that is founded on total honesty, intimate, open, truthful, and revealing dialog, vulnerability in one's revelation, self-responsibility in all things, and intense curiosity about one's partner."
- how we are conditioned to look outside of ourselves for validation, happiness, and direction – and how to fix this
- cultural myths that get in the way of self-responsibility and relational success
- how to differentiate between lust and love
- how you filter data – how this is the principal reason you keep repeating old patterns – and how to change this permanently
- how to let go of "taking your chances" (depending on luck or divine intervention) when it comes to finding a partner
- how knowing what went wrong in the past leads to success this time around
- how to create your own List of 50
- how to overcome procrastination and make all of this happen!
- Crucial items every List of 50 needs
- how to 'police your language' for optimal results
- The most important question you must ask yourself
More comments and reviews!
I want to give you an update on the effects of my List of 50. I very much was wanting a relationship in the spring and summer and, after writing out my list, read it often and gave it to a number of friends, both as a "giving it away" and as a request for fixing up.
I was also aware that I really did need time alone to get deeper into my own Being, to learn to feel not just comfortable but happy with being alone. This fall, although there was still a part of me wanting relationship, I clearly accepted and decided I more wanted to be alone, for the present at any rate. My life is full and I have plans to be away next year on sabbatical. A conscious relationship takes time and effort and I was happy to work on my self alone.
Well, as we know, giving something away seems to be the major ingredient in receiving. Three weeks ago I met the cousin of my friend and within 3 conversations we both knew this was for life. Timing was excellent as we both had holidays and spent a week together. The knowing only increased. He matches 49 out of my list of 50! (And I already have a good car mechanic so I can easily give that up.)
Loving has never been so easy, so sacred, so healing. Thank you.
...Most of all, it made me consider things that I'd never really taken the time to think about. Previously, I didn't know that I had any say or any control in who I ended up with.
It brought some reality and control into that mysterious, magical world of Love.
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In one downloadable pdf file, you'll receive
containing
- everything you need to analyze your past relationships,
- tools to discover the characteristics of the person you want to be in relationship with,
- precise instructions on how to set up a List of 50, and
- how to implement it!
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