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Looking Forward Looking Back — a review of last year, and a look into the next

In This Moment

Happy 2013!!!

Here we are, at the end of 2012, on the threshold of 2013.

I’ve been glad to walk with you this past year, and look forward to hearing from you about what you’d like to read about in 2013.

Below, some reflections, as well as a bit about our plans for 2013.


I want to write briefly today, (and I recognize that the actual e‑mail for this blog post will reach you January 1 — Happy New Year!)

Well, here it is, New Year’s Eve.

It’s been another great year for the blog.

As always, I enjoy the writing as a weekly exercise / discipline. I’ve been keeping to this schedule almost continuously since 1999. Your comments and suggestions are greatly appreciated!

The Top article of the year was

Dropping the Ego — Self-actualized as complared to self-Absorbed This one was part of a series of articles. If you follow the link, you’ll find a table listing the other articles too.

followed by

Dropping Manipulative Games

The most popular post of all time is 10 Zen Principles to Help You Live Your Life Better – It’s had almost 11,000 reads since it was published.

Books, books…

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As I wrote in last week’s Intro, I’ve re-written one of my books. Find Your Perfect Partner started out as a short, free booklet, called the List of 50. It was designed as an exercise for figuring out who you wanted to be in relationship with. I started using it with my clients, and since the late 90s hundreds and hundreds of copies have been downloaded / bought.

I decided to revise the book a bit, because people keep buying it! I decided that I’d be generous to the e‑reader fans. It’s presently (only) available as a Kindle download (of course, many e‑readers “read” the Kindle format…)

It’s available here, for $2.99 US. Two of my other books, This Endless Moment and Half Asleep in the Buddha Hall, are also available as Kindle books, same price. Those two are also available from Amazon as paperbacks.

In 2012, I wrote yet another book, which is presently out for edit. It’s called The. Best. Relationship. Ever. I’m hoping it will be available as both a Kindle book and a paperback somewhere around February 14, but we shall see. I’ll be featuring excerpts from the book over the next few weeks.

In other news…

Darbella and I will be leaving our present house the end of January. We’re house-sitting (and I’m still working) through the end of March, and then we head South again. We have a wedding to attend in Costa Rica the beginning of April, and expect to be in Costa Rica for 2 months.

We’re intending to have a week in Belize, too.

We’ll likely have space while down south for a Costa Rican Residential, if you’re inclined to do some work with us. I’ll put up a web page as soon as we figure out where we’re staying.

Come June, we’re back here (Ontario, Canada) for a few months, sorting out “what’s next” while house-sitting. I’ll be available for Bodywork, counselling, and workshops.

All in all, 1012 was a great year. Now, find your path of purpose in 2013.

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I’ve been reading I’m Your Man: The Life of Leonard Cohen, by Sylvie Simmons.

It’s a great biography of Leonard Cohen. A couple of times, Leonard mentions something his Zen teacher, Kyozan Joshu Sasaki, said.

The quote is this, me paraphrasing:

You can’t spend much time in paradise (or with God) — there are no restaurants and toilets there.”

I write several articles a year for Complete Wellbeing, an excellent “wholeness” magazine. I just finished writing an article on Spiritual Materialism, and it reflects Cohen’s quote. (BTW, all my Complete Wellbeing articles are here )

We don’t do our practices, do therapy, do anything, with an end in mind.

Flies in the face of thinking all this self-development is a means to an end, eh?

Not. Our practice, this blog, everything, is simply a way to focus our attention on what is right in front of us. There is no paradise to escape to, and if we visit occasionally, we notice a decided lack of nourishment. And no place for all our shit.

That place is here. Right here, right now, in this crazy, screwed up, beautiful, ugly, whack planet we inhabit.

Much drama. And nothing to do, save what drives you, rings your chimes, makes you happy or horny or alive.

You’re here to save yourself, without being a jerk about it.

Because no one care how many books you write, widgets you make, or notches you have on the bed post.

What matters is “being the song, being the painting, being the art.”

In 2013, let it all out. Shine. Because as Cohen says, that’s how the light gets in.

Peace and love from Wayne and Darbella

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So, how does this week’s article sit with you? What questions do you have? Leave a comment or question!

About the Author: Wayne C. Allen is the web\‘s Simple Zen Guy. Wayne was a Private Practice Counsellor in Ontario until June of 2013. Wayne is the author of five books, the latest being The. Best. Relationship. Ever. See: –The Phoenix Centre Press

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