The Prison of Body Resistance

The Prison of Body Resistance — we find ourselves trapped in a body that seems foreign to us. Here are some suggestions geared toward letting go

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As I wrote last week, our minds can be quite locked up. Because we’re used to the games our minds play, however, we’re comfortable living between our ears.

A strange thing happened at the time of the Enlightenment. People were split in three.

Prior to this time, life in the West was pretty regimented. The Church held sway over pretty much everything. Sickness was thought of as a sign of sinfulness. Health care was a joke — the town surgeon was likely the barber. If you needed medicine, it came from a woman versed in herbs — and she needed to keep her head down, as the Church didn’t like intrusion. She could easily be branded a witch.

The Enlightenment was an opening of the mind.

getting your head read

Education rose in importance, as did fledgling Universities. Medicine became a science, and was taught to doctors. Somehow the Church came to its senses long enough to realize this “newfangled education thing” wasn’t going away. The Church agreed to a division.

The Church got the Spirit. The doctors for the body. The educators got sole possession of the mind (until psychoanalysis came along — a division again happened at that point.)

The educators quickly rose to the fore, as change was coming from this part of the triumvirate. Science was plotting the universe, creating machines, promoting logic — and shunting the Church off into a corner from which is has yet (thankfully) to return.

And medicine decided that, like all sciences, division led somewhere. Once dissection was approved, medicine built its bones on the idea that if only we look to the smallest, we will understand the whole.

The Mind was elevated

horse and rider

The Spirit (something on this next week) was seen as quaint. The Mind was seen as the principal aspect that made humans human. The analogy of horse and rider prevailed — the mind was like the rider of the horse — in possession of knowledge, intellect, wisdom, and direction. The horse was the dumb beast that got the rider from a to b.

Many of my clients still have difficulty believing their bodies have a voice

And this is even with their bodies going quite dramatically out of control. One client especially was fascinating to do Bodywork with. I’d touch her shoulder, and she’d say, “I feel that in my toe. What does that mean?” Or I’d press on her sternum, and she’d start to cry, and I’d almost hear a click as she popped up into her head, and told me a story.

Bodies are treated with disrespect

body disrespect

Bodywork is really about breaking down the walls that separate us from ourselves. The walls are 1) tightness, and 2) reluctance.

  • The tightness is what we learned to do to “get ourselves under control.”
  • The reluctance is the centuries long aversion we have to thinking of our bodies as having intelligence.

I remember my first Bodywork session, out at Haven, with my buddy David Raithby. I had a lot of tears and anger. I was also out there right before I got “exited” from the Church, although none of us knew that at the time. David had just about finished. He asked me to sit up, and dug his fingers into my side intercostals.

I let out a howl, and really kind of lost it. He extended my arms out from my sides. He said,

We’ve already had one Messiah, and look how it turned out for him.”

I, in that moment, had a whole body reaction. I thought about how my body had actually collapsed on me a few months earlier … a prime motivation to go to The Haven. I thought about how I kept demanding that my body do what it didn’t want to do any more. All for the “right” reasons: my “calling,” prestige, money.

I stayed and stayed, and my little legs were pumping in the air. Trying to run out the door.

I don’t know how David saw what was up for me, although as a Bodyworker, I “see” stuff all the time. I get a flash, an intuition, and I follow it. I “push here,” as if it’s written on skin. I see what the recipient is resisting (often stuff to do with pelvic / sensual / sexual resistance,) and I go for it. The body has a voice.

The body is screaming its message, and we ignore it at our peril

As you feel your feelings, watch. See what you do next.

  1. intellectualize — ask for more information, pop into your head and try to “figure it out.” In the meantime, stuff the feelings back down.
  2. Fantasize — one client spent 6 months of our time together starting to feel, and then “checking out.” She’s met a guy, and whenever there was pain, she’d go into her head and have sex with him. Tell me how great the sex would be in the real world, despite never having had sex with him. “See how free I am!” Well, no.
  3. Patch the wall — you start to feel, start to “see” what’s being held in / down / back. You start to dig in, and then, poof, “shields up!” The muscles are re-tightened, and feelings dismissed, and all is “normal” again.


  1. let go — ask your body what it needs — it may need to yell, pound, cry… and then, as one client puts it, it may need a “complete release.” If you block yourself from doing what your body needs, you will pay the price.
  2. wiggle / move — your body wants to express itself, so find ways. Dance, wiggle, move your pelvis, stretch, do yoga. Exercise your need to let your body loose.
  3. Emote — set aside time to feel your emotions fully. Create a space to let it all hang out. Find a core group of people you trust enough to be yourself.
  4. Find alternatives — I love my doctor — he’s a friend as well as my physician. Nevertheless, I do Bodywork, get acupuncture (50 needles the last time!) and Chinese herbal remedies. I do all kinds of body based work, as well as give attention to sensuality, eroticism and sexuality. (Check out my new book, The. Best. Relationship. Ever., for ideas!)
getting it together

You are not the victim of your body. You are your body, as much as you are your mind. Your body is talking to you, all the time, and usually is aware of “difficulties” long before your brain clues in. :earn to pay attention.

Ask your body, “What do you need? What can I do so toast you can let go and come back into balance? What needs to happen, be let go of, danced with? And then, listen.

I suspect you’ll discover that the answer(s) are obvious.

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About the Author: Wayne C. Allen is the web\‘s Simple Zen Guy. Wayne was a Private Practice Counsellor in Ontario until June of 2013. Wayne is the author of five books, the latest being The. Best. Relationship. Ever. See: –The Phoenix Centre Press

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