There is no remedy — No Hay Remedio: We are as we are, and there’s no getting over that. What we can do is start making better choices
Well, here it is, finally–the last few days before we get to say a fervent goodbye to 2016. In the last few weeks, we’ve been on the road, shifting domiciles, etc. and are now in Canada. Leaving Costa Rica gets harder each time.
We will return to Costa Rica in April, and in the mean time have a chance to see friends and family here. I have a few paintings in my head that need to exit onto canvas through a brush, and some other stuff to edit.
Which brings me to mention that I’ve been working on a 2nd edition of This Endless Moment! I decided to give it a go back last May, and have edited the old book, and added about 60 or so pages of new materials and exercises. I’m thinking it will be available in February, but we shall see.
As to a closing point for 2016, I learned the expression no hay remedio recently, and thought it really did capture the essence of both Zen living and The Pathless Path. It can have a negative connotation, as in “Trapped in a mess,” but I’d like to propose and alternative.
We are as we are, and so is the world
It is our nature to obsess, to cling, to grasp, to lust, to hate. It is built into each of us to get caught in the trap of clinging on — even to things we detest. On and on we go, telling ourselves stories, making ourselves miserable.
As this is our nature, there is no remedio — no remedy — no cure.
But there is moment‐by‐moment choice to conduct ourselves differently. We can notice the games we are playing up there in the wilderness of our minds, and have a laugh, and then… conduct ourselves differently.
We can reach out when we want to pull in, let go when we want to grasp, stand next to when we want to push away. We can stop complaining and do things differently.
We can move, we can start a new career or job, we can retire early, we can become passionate about what was formerly a hobby. We can treat others with kindness and respect, even when the little kid in our heads is screaming “I don’t wanna.”
In short, the remedy for “no remedy,” is to get over ourselves, and then to act with elegance.
Darbella and I wish you an 2017 of focus, attention, awake‐ness and caring!