On Resisting the Urge to Give Up

On Resisting the Urge to Give Up — the world we see is the one we get to live in. Choose well how to do so!

TODAY marks the final article in the 20 year run of The Pathless Path.

Back in 2013 I retired, and Darbella an I have been travelling since. I’ve kept up a close to biweekly writing schedule.

I want to thank those of you who have taken the time to write to me. The emails have been wonderful reminders of why I’ve kept writing.

I find it ironic and amusing that the final article is about “Resisting the Urge to Give Up.” I for sure have felt the internal pressure I create for myself … you know .. the voice that says, “Real “men” don’t stop… ever.”

And yet, here we are.

I won’t miss the effort it now takes to write something I deem worthy of your attention. I will miss the sense I get that what I write just might be useful.

Anyway, thanks to those of you who have stuck with me for decades. Your comments and good wishes have quite often made my day.

I wish you all a life on The Pathless Path… in this moment

Warmly, Wayne


Wayne C. Allen

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I’m bored! Butt out!!

I suspect that screaming, “I’m bored!” has moved from childhood into what passes for adulthood these days. There seems to be an epidemic of ennui about, as people pretend that it’s OK to watch from the sidelines as the world disintegrates.

As I mentioned last week, I’ve been listening to (and just finished) Tom Robbins’ Even Cowgirls Get the Blues.

One of the characters is “The Chink,” a Japanese anti-guru who lives in the hills near the cowgirls’ ranch. At one point, he’s having a conversation with one of the “girls,” and they’re talking about the state of the world. “The Chink” says that the biggest problem facing humanity is “ambulatory catatonia.”

And doesn’t that just seem to be the case?

This way of seeing things might just have started with the existentialists, who can’t be faulted for noticing the obvious:

Since boredom advances and boredom is the root of all evil, no wonder, then, that the world goes backwards, that evil spreads. This can be traced back to the very beginning of the world. The gods were bored; therefore they created human beings.
Soren Kierkegaard (1813–55), Either/Or, vol. 1, “Rotation of Crops” (1843; tr. 1987).

Kierkegaard, joined by such notables as Nietzsche, Sartre and Camus, began an exploration into meaning vs. meaninglessness. Thus began the modern “noticing” of how fundamentally weird the world is.

By the end of World War II, existentialism was at its height. European existentialists thought that nothing could be any worse than, nor a more clear-cut example of, the meaninglessness of life than the destruction caused by the War. (Little did they know, eh?

French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre first gave the term existentialism general currency by using it for his own philosophy. Explicitly atheistic and pessimistic, his philosophy declared that human life requires a rational basis but the attempt is a “futile passion.” Nevertheless, he insisted that his view is a form of humanism, emphasizing freedom and responsibility.
The Encarta — Desk Encyclopedia Copyright 1998 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

Or, to put it more humorously, this cartoon seems to capture it all: (This cartoon was a part of a t‑shirt collection by a company called Bovis Theads of Kingston, Ont. A web search failed to turn up the company after 1999. They seem to have gone “belly up.”)


The Sartre reference, above, from Encarta, actually contains the seeds of liberation, as noted in the last sentence. Freedom and responsibility is actually the antidote to the stultifying effects of being human.

Thus, existentialism — in its purest form — makes much sense. Note the following definition of existentialism:

A philosophy that emphasizes the uniqueness and isolation of the individual experience in a hostile or indifferent universe, regards human existence as unexplainable, and stresses freedom of choice and responsibility for the consequences of one’s acts.
Excerpted from The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition Copyright ? 1992 by Houghton Mifflin Company.

As some of you might know, there are parallels to Buddhism here. Buddhism has no interest in the stories we tell ourselves — life just “is” — we just “are,” and the only sane tack is to simply notice then act.

Existentialists (and Buddhists) reject the notion that life is predetermined and run by something (i.e. god) outside of us. In Buddhism, there is endless causation… things emerge out of what comes before… but lack meaning.

In other words, there is NO meaning that is “for all time and for all people.” Instead, we are left with personal understanding (or lack thereof…)

That is, life is “about,” or “means” whatever I choose for it to mean.

We hate this. We want our meaning to be “what everyone means.” So that we don’t feel alone and floating aimlessly in a meaningless universe. This is actually what draws Trump followers in so deeply. It’s the Koolaid of “I’m part of a special group.”

So, how does this relate to ambulatory catatonia, and Resisting the Urge to Give Up?

First, the catatonic among us only “get” the first piece of the existentialist paradox:

…the uniqueness and isolation of the individual experience in a hostile or indifferent universe, regards human existence as unexplainable…

As I just wrote, this idea can be scary — that we are cast adrift, alone, in a little boat on a dark and stormy sea. There is no meaning, no direction and no help from “above.”

Giving this reality, three options exist: fall overboard and drown, stop paddling and tune out (ambulatory catatonia) or enjoy the paddle anyway.

My approach to this existential dilemma is contained in the second part of the definition, above:

…and stresses freedom of choice and responsibility for the consequences of one’s acts.

Many of us, rather than living in the now, sucking the experience out of life, are still stuck in past relationships and situations, as if frozen in motion. We obsess and obsess, and nothing changes, except for one thing: the number of days of your life goes down by one, each day. You don’t get ’em back at the end.

To be self-responsibly free is to let go of attachments to the past. It is to let go of obsessing about the future. It is to find this moment, again and again, and to seize the moment and wring the living out of it, swallowing the moment whole, so to speak.

To do otherwise is to stop in your tracks, and plead for rescue, or to freeze and hope that someone is coming to even the score and level the playing field.

In the mean time, life continues apace, never once looking in your direction nor caring how you are doing.

This week, look at how you are fixed in place, by your assumptions, by your fear, by your lack of courage. Then, decide to experiment with leaving ambulatory catatonia and the dread of meaninglessness behind, and live despite it all.

It’s really the only life there is.

About the Author: Wayne C. Allen is the web\‘s Simple Zen Guy. Wayne was a Private Practice Counsellor in Ontario until June of 2013. Wayne is the author of five books, the latest being The. Best. Relationship. Ever. See: –The Phoenix Centre Press

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