Couples often tell me, “I want to work on our relationship. I typically look around the room, then look confused, and finally say, “OK, I’ll work on itâ€¦ but where is it? Can you bring it along the next time? Because at the moment, all I see are two individuals, who apparently have trouble relating.”
It is almost as if western culture has spawned several generations of ‘helpless victims’ seeking redress for crimes, real or imagined, committed against them. This victim mentality often rears its head when something goes wrong, and things often do go wrong—due another western concept–that of unlimited freedom.