Have your feelings. Act responsibly in spite of them.

Emotions arrive unbidden. Infants / children experience them without the filters later applied to them. Soon, the tribal ‘take’ on each emotional state is force fed to the child. “Big boys don’t cry.” “Sugar and spice and everything nice…” “What have you to be angry about?” or “I’ll give you something to be angry about.” “If you keep pouting your face will freeze that way.”
Now, you may think that this is unimportant, but I can guarantee that you have a whole list of internal and not-thought-through ‘rules’ about emotions.

The 3rd Chakra and Self Knowing

We do not normally think about the interrelatedness of the stages of our development, because we actually do not remember much of it. Most of us only have fleeting memories of ourselves prior to age 6 or so. What is going on, however, is that parents and tribes are giving the child an ‘ego-self.’ This is done by tribal blessing of socially approved of behaviours, while condemning behaviours the tribes frown upon.

Focused, present relating takes practice.

Because our minds are looking for complexity (as opposed to Simple Presence,) we resist the idea that the “many, many” issues we think we have are usually the same issue, in different guises. My favourite way of saying this is, “Baskin Robbins has 32 flavours, and they are all Ice Cream.”

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