Many religions/wisdom traditions have indicated that there is but one path to freedom, and it is achieved through centering. Now, this centering might be described as praying, meditating, directing our energy, dancing (thinking of Sufis here) or chanting. It might be reached through massage, manipulation of the chakras, through Qi Gong, yoga, Kundalini work, but the goal is the same.
Couples often tell me, “I want to work on our relationship. I typically look around the room, then look confused, and finally say, “OK, I’ll work on itâ€¦ but where is it? Can you bring it along the next time? Because at the moment, all I see are two individuals, who apparently have trouble relating.”
Emotions arrive unbidden. Infants / children experience them without the filters later applied to them. Soon, the tribal ‘takeâ€™ on each emotional state is force fed to the child. “Big boys donâ€™t cry.â€ “Sugar and spice and everything niceâ€¦â€ “What have you to be angry about?â€ or “Iâ€™ll give you something to be angry about.â€ “If you keep pouting your face will freeze that way.â€
Now, you may think that this is unimportant, but I can guarantee that you have a whole list of internal and not-thought-through ‘rulesâ€™ about emotions.
We do not normally think about the interrelatedness of the stages of our development, because we actually do not remember much of it. Most of us only have fleeting memories of ourselves prior to age 6 or so. What is going on, however, is that parents and tribes are giving the child an ‘ego-self.’ This is done by tribal blessing of socially approved of behaviours, while condemning behaviours the tribes frown upon.
And yet another resource for you. Bliss is a movie that I highly recommend. As you know, we focus a lot of attention on Bodywork In the last 2 years or so, (since the tsunami, which nudged the magnetic poles a bit) I’ve noticed that many clients feel “out of balance.” This feeling is often … Read more