Zen and Emotional Balance
Zen and Emotional Balance–there’s nothing “Zen” about blocking emotions. In fact, Zen is all about being real, which means being elegant–including with your emotional expression.
Wayne C. Allen - a simple Zen guy - writes about living and relating elegantly
Zen and Emotional Balance–there’s nothing “Zen” about blocking emotions. In fact, Zen is all about being real, which means being elegant–including with your emotional expression.
Our emotions and feelings are as much a part of us as our thoughts. We profit from learning to express them, as opposed to judging them, and then shutting them down.
I just worked with a client who was new both to me and to bodywork. I realized that I tend to assume that people “get” what I do, prior to my explaining it, especially if they found me on my website. This week, with 3 new clients, I discovered that the interconnection between body, mind, feelings, and “teachings” is not so clear to them.
To quote David Schnarch, in “Passionate Marriage,” a primary relationship is a crucible. In other words, the heat of the relationship is the “thing” that makes the crucible’s contents pure. Thus, in the heat of dialog and passion, the couple enters into a proving and refining ground that makes each person more “him or herself.”
The straight-jacket of delusion is caused by an internal process. In other words, we are straight-jacketed by what goes on between our ears. Not all of our mental games, but assuredly the “knowing” part.
We all do stuff we later regret. The point of having the sensation of regret is to fix in our minds the negative consequences of the errant behaviour.