We proceed from the assumption that people are, at all stages of their development, both OK, and complete. This is what we mean by acceptance, or better, self-acceptance. That this is not the normal belief is obvious–we are trained from birth to judge ourselves as lacking–and also ‘wrong, bad, and/or evil.’
It is impossible to live life free of anxiety. There is the anxiety that comes when deciding to shift oneâ€™s way of beingâ€”the anxiety of change, of pain, of growth. And, there is the anxiety of trying to stay the same, in denial, pretending. Shifting, to me, seems the better choice. From there, I can be intimate, and choose to love well.