We proceed from the assumption that people are, at all stages of their development, both OK, and complete. This is what we mean by acceptance, or better, self-acceptance. That this is not the normal belief is obvious–we are trained from birth to judge ourselves as lacking–and also ‘wrong, bad, and/or evil.’
We do not normally think about the interrelatedness of the stages of our development, because we actually do not remember much of it. Most of us only have fleeting memories of ourselves prior to age 6 or so. What is going on, however, is that parents and tribes are giving the child an ‘ego-self.’ This is done by tribal blessing of socially approved of behaviours, while condemning behaviours the tribes frown upon.