It is impossible to live life free of anxiety. There is the anxiety that comes when deciding to shift one’s way of being—the anxiety of change, of pain, of growth. And, there is the anxiety of trying to stay the same, in denial, pretending. Shifting, to me, seems the better choice. From there, I can be intimate, and choose to love well.


The reason people come to me is simple: they are not OK with some aspect of their lives, and they want my help to change the external thing. Or, there is some aspect of their internal theatre that they hate–an emotion, a way of being, that they disagree with, and want changed.

It’s a hard thing for them to accept that the first step in our work together is that we start from where the client is—by accepting that ‘the way it is, is the way it is.’