On Resisting the Urge to Give Up — the world we see is the one we get to live in. Choose well how to do so! I suspect that screaming, “I’m bored!” has moved from childhood into what passes for adulthood these days. There seems to be an epidemic of ennui about, as people pretend that … Read more
Given society’s propensity to think that ‘love’ should automatically equal happiness, it’s a brave thing indeed to suggest that the real source of happiness is courage.
Why is this so?
Well, there’s a progression of silliness that is common to most relationships. It begins at the ‘falling in love’ stage, when everything seems so perfect. The biological imperative sets in, and the quirks in each others’ behaviour are painted over.
As time goes by, (six months is usually about the standard time) a bit more ‘reality’ sets in. The things not noticed in the romance of falling in love begin to emerge. What’s really happening is that a certain level of comfort has been reached, and the parties are more willing to be who they really are.